Today is the day you decided to stand for something you had not done in a while. You decided it was time to set yourself free from the cage you created long ago. You finally decided to stand for yourself and to become a better version of you. But for that to happen, you need to get rid of some baggage you may have.
Remember the bad comments you heard or were said to you that made you feel really down? Guess what? You allowed yourself to feel that way. It is really as simple as that. I know some of the comments are very bad to hear as they are hurtful and seem to offend the very core of us. That can take someone’s peace of mind. They are hard to be erased, once they are concealed so are some pieces of us. However you need to evoke your inner most self first, and analyze the place some of the comments are coming from. Check out the origin of the comments and evaluate it. If the place is a good one, put up your shield just to better understand the message. If they are just purely hurtful comments, put up your defense shield, analyze but do not allow them to get to you. The shield is your best defense from unkind experiences.
You need to evoke you inner most self first, and analyze the place some of the comments are coming from.
A defense/emotional shield is build around yourself to prevent unpleasant things to happen to you. It is nothing much then to clear up your mind and heart to analyze what has been done and said to you in order to make a decision. Irrational decisions are made sometimes without any prior analysis and regretful actions are the result of it. This small step can lead us to let our shield down. We must be conscious of the shield at all times, so we are ready to make conscious decisions. I am not saying to go around and live in fear. No. What I want to say is just to keep yourself always aware of what is around you, physically and psychologically, so you are ready to make decisions you will not regret.
Irrational decision are made sometimes without any prior analysis and regretful actions are the result of it.
Breathe for a couple of seconds, analyze and answer accordingly. Is what is being said valid? Is it coming from a good place? How is the speaker’s state of mind? What is your state of mind? Why is it hurting you? Why would you get mad at that? Does it offend your essence or an attitude you had? Can you change anything? Those are some of the questions you can ask yourself before making the decision to act.
Countless times you have asked yourself why you were mad at something that happened ages ago. There are so many things that offend you, and you fail to understand why that happens. This makes you feel depressed and unwilling to leave your cocoon. Once in the cocoon, everything seems scary and the bad comments have an easier path to get through. It will be easier to hurt and maintain you in the same enclosed space. Our personal growth gets inhibited because you will be unable to leave the place of hurt. The focus will be shifted to your feelings, hurtful ones and this will stop any sort of development.
Once in the cocoon, everything seems scary and bad comments have an easier path to get through.
Your emotional shield is important to keep your essence intact and ready for positive changes. Do not allow yourself to be a victim of your feelings. Be a logical being, analyze and take your decision. If your analyzes ends up generating good results, then work around the comments that were said to you. Allow yourself to change for good reasons. Grow, and become the person you were suppose to be. Only you have the power to allow someone to feel bad about yourself. You are the only person in this world who can shape your path. Become the awesome you!
Until next time, Hungry People.